Nothings

Nothings.....

Today was a rough day for me. It was an emotional day. Its the kind of day where you realize how much of an angry bird you have been to everyone. It's a day that reminds you how alone you are. It's a day that tells you, you still have so much to do and that your aim for perfection can be a long journey. Today was so full of emotional pain and physical pain which I've sustained prior. 

Enough of that. Today is considered Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. day. As I rode through my town, I couldn't help but to see people out and about enjoying themselves by cooking out, selling food, watching the parade and just listening and dancing to music. I couldn't help but wonder if Dr. King would be pleased at how the world turned out. Just take a look around in your neighborhoods. What do you see? 

How many of you think that the Black Lives Matter campaign was garbage? In a way I did. I mean, though i'm not out there paving the concrete about the injustices these black males put themselves in, I couldn't help but to think about the preparation process for this rally of black people that took to the streets to make white people listen to our chants.  Whatever happened to being peaceful and respecting authority? Yes the police at times use excessive force, but how much of these killings would have been avoided if some of the victims would've just been quiet, not saying anything, not run, etc. 

The marches that Dr. King arranged was organized, consistent and no violence. The movements that goes on today only happens if a black male gets killed by a police officer. Then the families win their suits and the boycotts stop.I hate to say it, but today's organizers of injustices don't have the endurance or the tenacity like they had back in the day. 

In order for any movement to move or for black lives to really matter, we have to 

go back to the basics of parenting and not having a friendship with kids. We must illustrate to our kids the true meaning of respecting their elders and respecting authority figures. I've seen children fight their parents, so how can that child that raises a hand to the person that brought them into this world have any respect for adults in the community? There is an epidemic in the black community of single young parents. These kids that are having babies come from a long line of women having babies before they graduate middle school or high school. Nowadays children in elementary are starting to give birth. In order for black live matter campaign to be a success we need to get to the daycare's and pre-Kindergarten students and teach them what their parents don't know. 
As a child I was abused in many ways. So when I found out that I was pregnant with my first child, I had enough common sense to go take parenting classes. Hell I had no clue about positive parenting. I made it a priority to learn as much as I could about healthy discipline and talking to my children about their behaviors and let them give me feedback about what they learned. You have to be open with your children. You can't just let your children make mistakes or speak to adults in any ole kind of way and then go get them a 400.00 X-box or 600.00 cell phone with a plan. You got to give your child a balance. Black people must talk to their children about encounters with a police officer. I talk to my 6 year old son very blunt about black relationships with police officers in general. When we go to the store or just any place I make sure he talks to the officers, so there is no fear of them. My son knows about jail and consequences. I do not give my children a slap on the wrist for bad behavior. No there are consequences for your actions. You cannot raise your children to be above the law. If you do, you are raising your children to be killed. 
If black lives really matter, there must have a strategic plan to really reach our youth before they get old enough to get into the streets. In order for our race to matter to any race, we must first care about our own race. Black people are some smart intelligent people, but at times we can be sellouts. Look at all the things we invented and how many of those things we still own? Why can't the black race have control over the hair care and weave industry? We will in a heartbeat support other races and celebrities that don't care two turds about us, but yet we complain about the injustices. We are the strongest buying power out there. We make these people millionaires and billionaires. Shouldn't there be more of us billionaires? 
This year I made a vow to be more than a talker. What about you? What can you do for black lives to really matter?

You're Promoting Obesity

You're promoting obesity.... Happens to be the most stupidest thing I have every heard come out a certain groups mouth. There is absolutely no way a person can convince anyone the need to gain weight, unless they want to. Gaining weight happens to be an effect of genetics, DNA and how a persons body breakdown and/or processes food.
There is a lot of factors that makes a person unhealthy. What makes an overweight person stands out is that you can see the structure of their body, but is he or she unhealthy because they are on the larger side of the scale? If you believe that they are, how do you know and where is your proof?
This world is shifting into an atmosphere of hate and disrespect for mankind. I would like to meet the person who started this wave of hate and hostility towards the overweight population. There are many reports that are surfacing that shows that the certain placement of fat on someones body is actually more healthy and makes them less at risk for heart disease, diabetes, etc. For instance if you carry your weight around your belly or the upper half of your body you would be more at risk for heart disease, diabetes, strokes, etc. Lets say you are 5'10" 160lbs, you are weight proportionate, but your circumference around your belly holds the most weight, i'm sorry to tell you, you are at risk for the top three killers.
I am an overweight black female. Just by me being black puts me at risk for heart disease, diabetes, etc. Not to mention it runs in my family, but I carry my weight in my thighs and hips. If I wasn't black I wouldn't be in the category for those risk per-say, but I would have a lot of joint and mobility issues.
Everyone is not going to be a size two nor is everyone woman on the this earth supposed to be. We as women must learn to encourage and uplift one another. Majority of us have experienced some type of abuse, we make babies, we have monthly periods, we get dumped, we hurt, we love and the lists go on and on. So why not root for a woman that steps out and model? Our children are becoming the most disrespectful people. Look at their examples. We have to lead by example. I remember I was in the grocery store and this slender beautiful woman was walking by me on her phone and she gave me this look. Her son smiled at me. He was on the chubby side, but not too big. They went to the next isle and I left the isle and proceeded to go to the isle on the other side of them. As i'm going up the isle I hear the mother on the phone tell whomever she was talking to about me and how disgusting my butt looks. Lets just say I was about to toss a few cans over the shelf to bust her in her head. As I was getting ready to launch, I heard her son tell his mom that what she was saying was very rude and now she sees what the kids do to him everyday. I was so heartbroken and relieved at the same time. All of a sudden I hear her calling for him to come back. By that time i'm at the top of the isle and he was going out the door and turned around to look at his mom and he saw me. He smiled and I smiled back and told him thank you. His face turned red and tears ran down his face. Then his mother came up the isle and looked me in my face with sadness, she left her groceries and they left. Moral of the story you are not going to find many parents who gets a reality check by their children, but what you will find are parents teaching their children how to bully and disrespect adults because they are overweight. It needs to stop.
This woman in the video, Velvet D.Amour, is courageous, beautiful, and she is role model to our young girls who are trying to find someone that they can relate to. These kids that are battling obesity do not relate to Rhianna or Beyonce or Taylor Swift, if anything they are striving to be like them because that's what they think perfection is or that's what "healthy" is. We have to do better. There are hundreds of things that people do which contributes to them being unhealthy, obesity is not the only way to be unhealthy.
If you are overweight, flaunt it! Be proud of who you are! Make this year, a year of change and do something that you have never done before. If you want to model, then model. Don't let all these wannabe doctors stop you.